You know for your girlfriend, there’s a difference between the big, powerful, intense orgasms and the smaller ones, that are more frequent. And while you might enjoy deciphering between the two (and aiming for the former!), have you considered the different levels of pleasure that you might experience, too? Male and female orgasms engage varying parts of your body, but one doesn’t outweigh the other, in every respect, experts say. ( REAL SEX CONTACTS )
“The difference between male and female orgasm itself is that with women, orgasm is produced by direct stimulation of the clitoris or G-spot, felt and described as waves of pleasure throughout the body, and a series of contractions that are felt through the uterus, anus, cervix, and genitals at 0.8 seconds apart. It takes the average women about 15 to 20 minutes to orgasm,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Marissa Nelson.
“Male orgasm involves contractions of the PC muscles, anal, perineum and penis, and the feeling of pumping and/or throbbing. It takes the average man three to five minutes to achieve orgasm and the sensation of ejaculation can heighten orgasm. It’s important to remember that ejaculation and orgasm are two separate events, as a guy can have an orgasm without ejaculating.”
So how do you enhance the male orgasm to be even better for you? Here are some tricks and tips from those who know best:
1. Breathe More
Most people – men and women alike – have a tendency to hold their breath while they’re orgasming. It makes the release (of the orgasm and your breath) feel a little more intense, or so it seems. In reality, if you can learn how to control your breath and focus on it, you’ll experience heightened, more intense sensations. “Holding your breath stops the depth and intensity of orgasm that can be enhanced, and magnified through breathing slowly and deeply. As soon as you feel yourself climaxing, remember to take a deep breath from the belly and inhale deeply to the count of four, and exhale slowly out the mouth to the count of four, and let your breath ride through the wave of orgasm,” Nelson says. “This breath work will help expand the feelings of orgasm and circulate that satisfaction throughout the entire body.”
2. Don’t Be Afraid Of Experimenting
You may be a little shy and hesitant to let your girl go for some backdoor play, but Nelson says opening your boundaries and limits may strengthen your orgasm even more. “It’s not just about stroking the penis, it’s about building arousal and pleasure sensation. You and your partner can start by touching, licking, biting the nipples, thighs, belly, and the entire penis, from the base, up to the shaft and tip, the perineum and scrotum,” she notes. “This helps to expand the boundaries or routine of sex to include new and blended level of bliss.”
3. Try A Cock Ring Or Ball Stretcher
While trying all of the candid – and helpful! – advice above from sex therapists and experts will definitely help you maximize your performance, and give you the extra push you need to take your orgasm from zero to a hundred, simply using your body parts will only get you so far. It’s not that you can’t achieve a killer experience with your partner’s hands, body and mouth, but rather, when paired with toys that are built for one purpose – and one purpose only – you can experience never-before-felt sensations. Here are some fun gadgets to consider, especially if you’re in the market for the best sex of your life (and hey, who isn’t?)
Alright, alright so you know the stroke dance that works for you and you can likely get yourself off in less than a minute if you want to – but that won’t make your sex life with your partner better. In fact, it could make it worse for her and for you. Sienna Sinclaire, sex expert, says when you masturbate, you should always be innovative. “There are cock rings that have attachments that will vibrate on the balls leaving his hands free to do other things,” she says. “Or you can try a ball stretcher – which sounds scarier than it is – usually found in the fetish departments. You can attach this device to your balls with as many weights as you want and it will pull your balls for you while you work your cock.”
What do cock rings do? They’re helpful for lots of things, depending on what function you’d like them for.
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4. Stop And Start Again
“Men can sometimes go from erection to ejaculation really quickly and rush through it,” Nelson says. “But it’s important to slow down and pay attention to arousal and sexual energy.” How do you do that? Nelson suggests tuning into each of the sensations you are feeling and not giving in to feeling ahem, horny, while you’re still working on getting turned on. “Try prolonging the feeling of arousal and masturbate or thrust until you feel the sexual energy build, then stop. Start to squeeze the tip or base of the penis until you feel the urge to come subside,” Nelson says. “Try this method three to four times while self-pleasuring or during sex, as this will increase and sustain that delicious feeling of pleasure, and overall sexual stamina.”
5. Try A Penis Pump
“A lot of men have trouble with maintaining erections or they’re just not happy with the size of it. Penis pumps are a great way of literally pumping yourself up before sex, and when used in conjunction with a cock ring, they can make you last way longer than you normally would,” Sinclaire says.
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6. Get Out Of Your Head
Both Sinclaire and Nelson say the key with male orgasm is to let yourself go with the moment, and if you find your mind trailing off, you won’t always get the best experience with your orgasms as you could. While you might be able to ‘finish’ – so to speak – if you’re really looking for an explosive experience that takes you (and your partner) to the next level, exploring toys like the ones below might be the ticket that opens your mind and sexual liberties to a place you’ve never been before.
7. Use A Prostate Massager
“Prostate massagers are fantastic sex toys for guys and will become an integral part of your toy box. They come in different thicknesses, but most of them are usually thin with a bulbous end purposely designed to slip easily inside your anus and stimulate your prostate. They’re slick, lightweight and easy to look after, and offer the most intense orgasms,” Sinclaire says.
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