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8 Sex Positions That Help You Orgasm

Men have wanted to last longer in bed since there were beds.

We all want to satisfy our partners. We all want to embody the ideal of masculinity. No one wants to be the dreaded “one-minute man.”

Premature ejaculation brings on feelings of shame and inadequacy. Meanwhile, it leaves your partner with doubts about your sexual potential.

Coming too quickly is the fastest way to go from hero to zero.

If you want to last longer in bed, you’re not alone.

A full 45% of men finish sex too quickly – or under two minutes – according to the recent book, The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups.

So what’s the baseline for sexual stamina?

  • 5.4 minutes is the average duration of sex
  • 3 – 7 minutes is an “adequate” duration for sex
  • 7 – 13 minutes is a “desirable” duration for sex

Despite the data, science still doesn’t know what causes premature ejaculation (PE).

Today, we give you six techniques that every Adonis Alpha uses to last longer in bed. You’ll also hear from top male porn stars on the porn-proven ways to increase sexual stamina and rock your lover until the early hours.

6 Proven Ways to Last Longer in Bed

#1 Begin with Foreplay

Foreplay helps to insulate the male sexual system from premature ejaculation. All that dry humping, nipple sucking, and genital kissing? It lessens the impact of that first wave of sensation you get from penetration.

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Penetration after foreplay is like shifting gears in a car. The engine is already warm so there’s only a relative increase in feeling as you insert yourself. In turn, you’re less likely to lose control.

Sex without foreplay, though? It’s like taking a quantum leap to Pleasure Town. The light bends and you just hope to arrive without embarrassing yourself.

Easing into sex also helps to reduce performance anxiety, which is thought to contribute to premature ejaculation. This relaxed and attentive state will translate into a more enjoyable roll in the hay, while the increased arousal will add to your sexual staying power.

Is it any wonder that women love foreplay?

#2 Tug on Your Testicles

Your nuts hang freely when you’re not aroused. But as you approach climax, the testicles coil inward to the body. You can reset your excitement level with a bit of manual handiwork.

“When I’m close I tug my testicles down,” says porn star Dick Chibbles. Pulling the testicles down from this tightened position has a calming effect on the penis, and works to alleviate any feelings of imminent ejaculation.

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“I find that if I tug them down, kind of stretch them a bit, it resets how much time I have left. I know it sounds funny, but hey, try it sometime. You might be surprised to see it works,” Chibbles said.

This technique is most easily done when you’re astride or behind your partner. You may need to switch positions to do this without stopping the flow of sex. Just communicate so your partner can help you last your longest.

#3 Control Your Breath

Breath control is an often overlooked part of sex. And yet, proper breathing can be a very effective tool in helping you last longer in bed.

Next time you’re fucking, notice how you’re breathing. If the breath is rapid and shallow, it’s pushing you closer to climax. Instead, try to take deep and slow breaths from deep in your abdomen down near your cock.

Abdominal breathing helps to diffuse the sensation in the penis throughout the body. This way, all the stimulation doesn’t gather at the penis tip, but moves through the shaft, into the chest, and down the legs.

When the sensation isn’t localized in the head, it helps return you to a calm state of pleasure and control.

Focusing on your breath can also distract you from coming, says Chibbles:

“I focus more on the sound of my breathing. The increased oxygen flow increases my erection’s firmness and keeps me in control of my body.” Steady breathing helps you last longer because it signals to the brain that there’s nothing to get excited about.

This is a powerful technique but it can take practice. As Chibbles said, he “developed [it] over the years to keep my concentration and almost mute the sensation on my penis.”

Take it from a sexual Olympian: breathe control is dick control.

#4 Focus on Your Partner, Not Yourself

Try to avoid thinking about your cock during sex. Where the mind goes, the body follows. If you’re concentrating mostly on penile sensations, don’t be surprised if you pop off early.

Bring your attention to your partner. The immediate benefit of this technique is being more receptive to your partner’s desires and being better able to satisfy her. It will also distract you from the lightning storm brewing in your ballsack.

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“I focus on the girl (or girls) I’m having sex with; on their enjoyment over mine,” said adult film star Ryan Driller. This is a standard technique in the porn industry where guys frequently feel like coming way ahead of schedule.

“If you’re focusing on her pleasure and helping to get her off, you probably won’t even notice what you’re feeling. The best part is, she’ll really want to reciprocate afterward. So it’s a total win-win for you,” said Driller.

Zooming in on small details of your partner will help you last longer. For example, you could pay attention only to the feeling your lips make as you brush them on her neck. Or the smell of her hair.

This sexual tunnel vision will help you reduce the risk of premature ejaculation and give her the best sex ever.

#5 Change Positions

Certain positions are more likely to induce orgasm than others. But a position that makes one person come immediately can be unexciting to another. Your goal is to find one or two ways of fucking that don’t force an orgasm.

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Next time you’re comfortable experimenting with your partner, test your stamina in various poses. If you feel like you’re going to lose it – stop and reset, then continue. Body awareness and practice will help you discover positions that are both enjoyable and increase your endurance.

Communication is key to changing positions before your rocket goes ka-boom.

“Let your partner know how you feel and if what they’re doing to you feels too intense, ” says Chibbles. “What most male talent does, is if we’re close, and, say, the girl is riding on top of us, we’ll give a little tap on their leg where the camera can’t see.”

“That’s saying: “Hey, change it up a little. You’re getting me close and we’ve still got another 45 minutes to fuck here,” Chibbles concluded.

Rotating is a great way to find and enjoy positions that increase your stamina. Talking about what you want will allow for a more intimate, connected experience that will improve the quality of your sex.

#6 Do Kegels

Kegels are strength training for your sex life. To perform a Kegel, repeatedly contract and relax your pelvic floor muscles. Strengthening these muscles, which attach directly to the penis, will grant you incredible control over when and how you blow your load.

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A recent study from Sweden found that men who practiced Kegels over 12 weeks were able to prolong their time to ejaculation by a whopping 400%. The average duration increased from 31.7 seconds to 146.2 seconds, and the subjects’ confidence also saw a significant increase.

The secret to effective Kegels is building endurance in these muscles. For example, pelvic floor control is central to the tireless stamina of Tantric sex. But you can only keep yourself from ejaculating if these muscles are fit.

Follow a daily Kegel routine to develop your pelvic floor muscles. You can do this exercise anywhere and takes just a couple of minutes a day. A variety of apps such as Kegel Trainer can remind and show you how to get the most from this stamina-increasing sex workout.

You’ll know it’s working when you feel a tingling rush of sensation shoot up your spine. When you’re feeling yourself, feel free to share these good vibes with any pretty ladies nearby.

How to Last Longer in Bed

Premature ejaculation is both common and preventable.

To achieve your best stamina, make sure your body is fully aroused with foreplay. Aim to control your breath during sex, as rapid breathing is sure to make you lose it.

Turning your attention to your partner will help you avoid premature ejaculation, as will changing positions as needed. You can fortify your sexual muscles with Kegels, or tug on your testicles to reduce feelings of overexcitement.

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7 Ways To Enhance the Male Orgasm

You know for your girlfriend, there’s a difference between the big, powerful, intense orgasms and the smaller ones, that are more frequent. And while you might enjoy deciphering between the two (and aiming for the former!), have you considered the different levels of pleasure that you might experience, too? Male and female orgasms engage varying parts of your body, but one doesn’t outweigh the other, in every respect, experts say. ( REAL SEX CONTACTS )

“The difference between male and female orgasm itself is that with women, orgasm is produced by direct stimulation of the clitoris or G-spot, felt and described as waves of pleasure throughout the body, and a series of contractions that are felt through the uterus, anus, cervix, and genitals at 0.8 seconds apart. It takes the average women about 15 to 20 minutes to orgasm,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Marissa Nelson.

“Male orgasm involves contractions of the PC muscles, anal, perineum and penis, and the feeling of pumping and/or throbbing. It takes the average man three to five minutes to achieve orgasm and the sensation of ejaculation can heighten orgasm. It’s important to remember that ejaculation and orgasm are two separate events, as a guy can have an orgasm without ejaculating.”

So how do you enhance the male orgasm to be even better for you? Here are some tricks and tips from those who know best:

1. Breathe More

Most people – men and women alike – have a tendency to hold their breath while they’re orgasming. It makes the release (of the orgasm and your breath) feel a little more intense, or so it seems. In reality, if you can learn how to control your breath and focus on it, you’ll experience heightened, more intense sensations. “Holding your breath stops the depth and intensity of orgasm that can be enhanced, and magnified through breathing slowly and deeply. As soon as you feel yourself climaxing, remember to take a deep breath from the belly and inhale deeply to the count of four, and exhale slowly out the mouth to the count of four, and let your breath ride through the wave of orgasm,” Nelson says. “This breath work will help expand the feelings of orgasm and circulate that satisfaction throughout the entire body.”

 

2. Don’t Be Afraid Of Experimenting

You may be a little shy and hesitant to let your girl go for some backdoor play, but Nelson says opening your boundaries and limits may strengthen your orgasm even more. “It’s not just about stroking the penis, it’s about building arousal and pleasure sensation. You and your partner can start by touching, licking, biting the nipples, thighs, belly, and the entire penis, from the base, up to the shaft and tip, the perineum and scrotum,” she notes. “This helps to expand the boundaries or routine of sex to include new and blended level of bliss.”

3. Try A Cock Ring Or Ball Stretcher

While trying all of the candid – and helpful! – advice above from sex therapists and experts will definitely help you maximize your performance, and give you the extra push you need to take your orgasm from zero to a hundred, simply using your body parts will only get you so far. It’s not that you can’t achieve a killer experience with your partner’s hands, body and mouth, but rather, when paired with toys that are built for one purpose – and one purpose only – you can experience never-before-felt sensations. Here are some fun gadgets to consider, especially if you’re in the market for the best sex of your life (and hey, who isn’t?)

Alright, alright so you know the stroke dance that works for you and you can likely get yourself off in less than a minute if you want to – but that won’t make your sex life with your partner better. In fact, it could make it worse for her and for you. Sienna Sinclaire, sex expert, says when you masturbate, you should always be innovative. “There are cock rings that have attachments that will vibrate on the balls leaving his hands free to do other things,” she says. “Or you can try a ball stretcher – which sounds scarier than it is – usually found in the fetish departments. You can attach this device to your balls with as many weights as you want and it will pull your balls for you while you work your cock.”

What do cock rings do? They’re helpful for lots of things, depending on what function you’d like them for.

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4. Stop And Start Again

“Men can sometimes go from erection to ejaculation really quickly and rush through it,” Nelson says. “But it’s important to slow down and pay attention to arousal and sexual energy.” How do you do that? Nelson suggests tuning into each of the sensations you are feeling and not giving in to feeling ahem, horny, while you’re still working on getting turned on. “Try prolonging the feeling of arousal and masturbate or thrust until you feel the sexual energy build, then stop. Start to squeeze the tip or base of the penis until you feel the urge to come subside,” Nelson says. “Try this method three to four times while self-pleasuring or during sex, as this will increase and sustain that delicious feeling of pleasure, and overall sexual stamina.”

5. Try A Penis Pump

“A lot of men have trouble with maintaining erections or they’re just not happy with the size of it. Penis pumps are a great way of literally pumping yourself up before sex, and when used in conjunction with a cock ring, they can make you last way longer than you normally would,” Sinclaire says.

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6. Get Out Of Your Head

Both Sinclaire and Nelson say the key with male orgasm is to let yourself go with the moment, and if you find your mind trailing off, you won’t always get the best experience with your orgasms as you could. While you might be able to ‘finish’ – so to speak – if you’re really looking for an explosive experience that takes you (and your partner) to the next level, exploring toys like the ones below might be the ticket that opens your mind and sexual liberties to a place you’ve never been before.

7. Use A Prostate Massager

“Prostate massagers are fantastic sex toys for guys and will become an integral part of your toy box. They come in different thicknesses, but most of them are usually thin with a bulbous end purposely designed to slip easily inside your anus and stimulate your prostate. They’re slick, lightweight and easy to look after, and offer the most intense orgasms,” Sinclaire says.

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This Holiday Season, Give the Gift of Anal.

 

 

Preparation

The first thing you have to do when a partner mentions anal is to figure out how you feel about it. “Just because someone wants it, doesn’t mean you have to give it to them,” LaVey says. This is especially true if you’re dealing with a new partner. “Anal sex requires you to surrender and open up in a way that’s very profound,” she says. “You need a partner to recognize that.” For that reason, LaVey cautions against having sex with a casual partner—for more reasons than the emotionality. (More on that in a second.) “Everyone is free to make their own decisions,” she says. “But if it’s your first time, you want there to be open communication.”

That leads us to our next point of prep work: Talk! Don’t just jump into anal willy-nilly. “It’s important to know each other’s experiences with anal sex,” LaVey says. “If you’ve had a situation in which a partner poked in the wrong direction, and it was painful for you, then you might have some unresolved trauma that’s making you afraid.” Being open and communicative is so important ahead of any sex act, but that’s especially true if you’re new to anal, she says.

If you’ve never had anything in your ass, LaVey says it’s a good idea to experiment on your own. This can actually be super fun to do. “In the bath, play with your ass a little,” she says. “Don’t let his cock be the first thing that goes in there.” She suggests sticking a finger in first and seeing how it feels. You and your partner can and should also play around with fingers in bed. Butt plugs are also a fun toy to use during P-and-V sex, and LaVey says not to discount rimming. “It can get you used to having someone in that area,” she says. “Plus, it feels yummy.”

Remember: The vagina stretches. The anus? Not so much. So if you’ve done all of this and anal sex is still painful, then it could just be that your partner is a little too big.

The Main Event
Let’s get the most pressing concern out of the way first: If you’re worried about shitting on your partner, there are a few things you can do. First of all, LaVey reminds, the rectum doesn’t hold poop. Waste only passes through there, so the chances of your partner getting a ton of doodoo on them is pretty slim. But if you’re worried, she suggests eating a light meal before you know you’re set to have anal for the first time. You can also pick up an enema from the drugstore and do one before. “It helps me to feel light and clean,” LaVey says.

Foreplay is super important when it comes to anal sex, especially since most women won’t have an orgasm through anal alone. It’s a good idea to build up arousal in both parties, which can make relaxation a whole lot easier for the woman taking the dick. “It’s not a bad idea for her to have an orgasm before anal sex, or even have a little vaginal sex before,” LaVey says. Just remember the golden rule: Unless you’re washing up or changing a condom, never go from anal to vaginal sex. Vaginal to anal, however, is fine.

As far as lube goes, “you can’t use too much,” LaVey says. She says putting some inside of your anus as well as on his cock can help everything slip and slide much better. “Water-based lubes tend to dry up quickly, which is why I’m a fan of oil-based lubes,” LaVey says. “You want it to be slippery, not sticky.” She likes brands like Uberube and Yes. But remember—oil-based lubes and condoms don’t mix, which is another reason LaVey says you should only have anal with a fluid-bonded partner. If you’re worried about relaxation, she’s also a fan of CBD oil lubes, like Awaken by Foria Wellness. “It can help the muscles around your anus relax a bit,” she says.

A rookie mistake when it comes to having anal sex? Going straight to doggy style. “This is the worst position to start in, because it shortens the rectum,” LaVey says. Instead, she says to try something that will stretch you out, making it more comfortable to receive your partner’s dick. “Try laying on your back with your knees pulled up to your chest, or laying on your side in a spooning position,” LaVey says. “Those are the best positions to relax your anus.”
And remember: The vagina stretches. (We pass babies through there, remember.) The anus? Not so much. So if you’ve done all of this and anal sex is still painful, then it could just be that your partner is a little too big for you to take. Don’t try to force, LaVey says, and be open with him about it. Chances are, he’ll revel in the fact that his size is a hindrance and stick to vaginal sex. (Men. Such simple creatures.)

Once it’s all over, make sure you communicate with your partner about how you feel. “You might have some new emotions bubble up that you weren’t expecting, which is why it’s important to do this with someone you trust,” LaVey says. Be honest about those feelings, and if they’re negative, don’t push them down just to make your partner happy. Sex is meant to be enjoyable for everyone involved, and it’s not cool for yourself or your partner if you’re doing something that doesn’t feel good. And if you loved it? Let your partner know that, too! “Anal sex is such a gift to give to a partner,” LaVey says. “It’s such a deep opening, and it can create even more intimacy between you and a partner.”

You hear that, ladies? Your ass is a gift! But we already knew that, didn’t we?

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5 Tips On Being An Alpha Without Being An Asshole.

 

If there is one masculine trait that really turns women on above all others, it is dominance. We don’t necessarily mean whips, chain and nipple clamps which for some is a bonus but we are talking about a hot sexy man taking control in the bedroom and dishing out the dirty commands.

On a day to day basis, women are bossing it, their independent, strong and intelligent…I could go on 😉 So when it comes to sex, being dominated by someone she trusts, is the ultimate release of responsibilities.

Most women, including the shy, sweet type, have a secret submissive inside that needs satisfying, but how can you be that guy with all the power to please without coming across as cocky?

Take Control

An alpha male takes control and leads his woman to the bedroom. She doesn’t want you to ask or beg for sex, that can be a huge turn-off. As a strong man, a man who your woman respects and is sexually attracted to, it is your job to instigate sex. Build the sexual tension throughout the day by texting her the dirty things you want her to do to you later in return, for her orgasmic reward.

Talk Dirty

If you want to give your woman wild orgasms, the kind that causes her to dig her fingernails into your back, scream your name and come so hard it leaves a smile on her face for the next week – YOU MUST TALK DIRTY. This is because sex is very mental for a woman and for her to orgasm; you must stimulate her body and her mind.

Play Rough

Listen, the romantic movies may show you scenes of soft, slow, gentle love-making BUT the reality is that most women want a man who is a little rough in the bedroom, at least some of the time. Try using the doggy style position and use hard, deep strokes – talk dirty to her as you do it and see what happens. She’ll love it. I guarantee it. You just have to be brave enough to give it a go.

Change Things Up

Most men are painfully dull in the bedroom, and it shows. Why else do so many women get bored of the sex and stop wanting it when they are in a relationship? An alpha male knows that to keep a woman interested in sex and cause her to have orgasms, he must make the sex exciting.

This is easier to do than you may have previously thought. For example…

– One night, take her to the bedroom and test out a few new positions.

– Next time, catch her in the shower and join her for a good scrubbing.

– Another time, lean her over the sofa in the lounge, pull her knickers to one side and treat her like your naughty little slut (Feel free to call her “your naughty little slut” as you do it – she’ll get more excited than you could ever imagine)

See? With a little imagination, it is effortless to keep things interesting in the bedroom.

Make Sure You Give Her Orgasms

An alpha male’s greatest pleasure in life is to look after his woman, and if you do it right, she will look after you. Never ‘take’ without ‘giving’ in the bedroom, a man who cums and forgets to finish her off is no alpha because sooner or later she will stop wanting sex. Learn her pleasure signals, does she moan when you fuck her in a certain way? Or is she tense and seemingly bored? Know what she wants and perform them on her without her needing to tell you.

Avoid these instant turn-offs, if you want to be alpha in the bedroom.

  • Not focusing enough on foreplay – Show off your stamina. Don’t skimp on the foreplay; this can be the hottest part for a woman.
  • Poor & awkward undressing skill – Be smooth, don’t just whip everything straight off and stand there naked ready to start. Make undressing part of the act.
  • Lack of grooming & poor hygiene – Goes without saying, if you want her to give you a blowjob on command, then make sure it’s fresh down there.
  • Being silent & emotionless – Tell her that you are enjoying the filthy stuff she is performing on you, and how hot she looks doing it. Moan, be vocal and loosen your body to the movements.
  • Keeping your sexual fantasies to yourself – Suck it up and tell her, if you want to have the best sex possible you need to be open to explore sexually together. You’re missing out if you don’t.

As long as there is respect, there will be orgasms. Are you a natural alpha and have a few tips to share? Or is the idea of being in control, a massive turn on for you? Let us know in the comments below.